Sales, sales and more sales!

Oh what a wonderful world. For anyone who knows me I am all about coupons and finding the best deal. I clip coupons every Sunday and have a super way to organize them. I rarely if ever pay full price for anything. I know it will go on sale eventually and if it doesn't I am not meant to have it. Well, this is my favorite time of year. I also vowed that this year I would be all done Shopping for Christmas before December. Yes that's right! As a child I remember my grandmother buying gifts as early as January and I would think how crazy, but now as an adult I say what a wonderful idea. Lol I started shopping today and not on purpose at all. You see I went to Target to buy a birthday gift for a birthday party this weekend only to find they had four aisles of toys at 75% off. Oh what a wonderful sign to see up. So I got stuff for birthdays and gifts for next year at Christmas and already have two people off my list for next Christmas. I got so much stuff and spent little one thing I got retailed not so long ago for $80 and I got it for $20.
Another great store is also having an amazing sale. That store is Old Navy. They are having the additional 50% off the clearance prices. What a great time to stock up if you have little ones on the next size up. I went last year and for my son pants for 5 buck when I would normally pay twenty.
Fred Meyer I hear is also having an additional 40% of their clearance prices including house hold items.
If you are a thrifty shopper you too know what a great time of year this is and will most likely be doing what I will be doing this weekend and that is SHOPPING!

What kind of person have you become?

The other day as I sat and reflected in the year that is slowly coming to an end I realized there were tons of things I wish I would have done, but didn't for what ever reason. I don't want next year to be the same. I want to take more risk and not always think of what might happen. Who really cares what happens if I fall I will just get back up and try again. I want to be less responsible ( I don't mean I want to make careless choices). I mean I get more stress because I worry about what the right choice is. I look at these people who look carefree, and their life is pretty together. If I want to go camping I should. If I want to eat take out for a week I should. If I want a shirt I should buy it. If I don't want to be friends with some one I shouldn't. I just don't want to be so afraid to take a risk. I also want to slow down and enjoy life. I mean what difference does it make if I am ten minutes early or just on time? And I don't want to have to explain why all the time.
So here is to a better person in 2008!

Old age is catching me.....

The other say as I stood in front of the mirror doing my hair I catch a glimpse of my second gray hair. Now the other one I had found a week earlier I just pulled out thinking maybe I was just seeing things. I also noticed wrinkles on my forehead in which I didn't have before. I can't believe what the mirror is showing me. I thought I would never get old and here at twenty five I have my second gray hair and wrinkles.

What did I do so wrong?

This morning my neighbor ask my boyfriend if we had a baby because her brother dropped off some formula and she wouldn't have a baby for another 4 months.
So usually I am fine hearing that someone is expecting and I am actually happy for them because they get to experience motherhood and all the wonderful things it offers. But today is not one of those days. I already question this ladies parenting skills with the child she already has. Now I am in no way saying I am a saint of a parent because Lord knows I have made tons of mistakes raising my own child. At first the thought of her having a baby didn't bother me but as I sat there thinking of the kind of parent she is, I started to wonder why. Why is it okay for people like her to have baby after baby and keep them and I can't. I am a good mom and yet I had to give my baby to some one else because I couldn't care for him. And this lady gets to wake up every night by the crying of her new baby. I am not jealous all I want to know is why. Why is it okay for some people to have all that it takes to have a baby and why is it not for others. I understand that it takes a strong person to do what I did and all the mothers before me and those who will follow.
Now I live in fear of ever having another child for the fear that my child that I placed will somehow think I didn't love him enough to keep him. Which isn't the case at all.

An Amazing Gift

Tonight when I got home there was a note from the post man saying they tried to deliver a package and I wasn't home so it was at the office. I walked up not knowing what it was..... and once I got there I figured out it was the box from my son and his parents. Well I couldn't wait to get home because A had informed me that there were pictures in the box. Sure enough there were and OH MY WHAT AN AMAZING LITTLE BOY! His smile just melted my heart and made me smile my self. She had included some from when they went to the pumpkin patch and of him in his Halloween costume, and the ones of him on his big boy bike. In each there was a smile worth a million words. I looked at him in disbelief of how big he has gotten. He has hair and lots of it and its in curls. Though his smiles I see how happy he is. I am grateful for the amazing gift of Pictures.

If you had it to do all over again would you pick the same parents?

If or even if I didn't know what I know now about my sons parents I would with out a doubt pick them again to be his parents. They are meant to be Jaodn's mom and dad. Plus the joy I saw on their faces when he arrived in to the world was priceless. Plus they include me in in the important parts of his life and I never feel as if I am not part of it. They are also amazing with my other son who loves when we visit. They are Christians which is very important. Most of all his mom has become a close friend of mine. When something great happens she is one of the first people I want to call. His dad is quiet like me, you see some times I just don't know what to say when people are around. They have great smiles. Plus they match......meaning he looks like them a lot. To me it would be odd if he didn't look like his parents. They were exactly what I wanted in parents. You know they say you don't get to choose your parents.... well I picked his and they are great.

Two Visits

I decided last summer I would like to have two visits instead of four a year. I figured it would be better for everyone. But as I sit here this month I remember last year and the visit I had with Jadon. It was the first one post his placement. I remember being so nervous and not knowing what to wear. I shopped all day to find matching shirts in two different sizes. So when the boys had their pictures done they would match. I am thankful that my sons mom lets the boys have their pictures taken together. I remember walking in and he was a sleep on the bed, and I wanted him to be up. It didn't take long to help him along with that. Wow did he change in just that short amount of time. He looked like this little person. I remember how he stared at me as if he knew me from some where. I like that about him no matter how long its been since he saw me last he always gives me the look as if he knows me even if it takes him a minute.

At the same time I sit and wonder what it will be like when I see him again in March. It will be six months then since I saw him last. I know when I talk with his mom on the phone he is always chatty in the back ground which can cause me to be spacey in my conversation. So I know he will be chatty and I get excited. Well by then he will also be walking. Scary!!!!!!!!! Which means he is no longer this baby that I laid in his parents arms and exited. I also wonder about how tall he will be. Will he give me that same look or will he cling to his parents in fear of me. I know what ever it is it will be great.

This is why I think two visits are good. Well, they need time to be a family and learn what works and what doesn't. Second visits are super emotional no matter how much you think that you are prepared for them. Third Life happens and we all get wrapped up in our own. I am glad we are able to communicate other ways in the mean time though. Fourth I don't worry about if he is in good hand or not because I know he is. Plus there are huge changes to look forward to and if it doesn't work we can look at it later.