Meeting the parents

Meeting the parents in more like a blind date when you think about it. Because both of you know only what you have heard from someone else, and you go in to it hoping the best and not knowing the outcome.
The day finally came when I got the call saying that I could meet the couple from the book. I was so nervous and excited. I had made a list of all the questions I wanted to ask so I would be sure not to forget any.I worked half a day and left early so I could make it on time. I arrived a little early to the office, and I sat in the car hoping to catch a glance of a couple who I would soon be talking to. But of course the baby on the bladder got the best of me and I had to head on before I noticed any one looking around like me. As I sat in the office and waited for their arrival I read a pamphlet in the office about moms who had been down the road before me and gave me some hope that in the end it would be ok. All of a sudden the door opened and in came the couple from the book. They were so warm and friendly from the moment they came in the door. We then went back in to the room where we would get to know each other. With in a few minutes it was as if we had known each other forever and weren't just meeting for the first time. Time went by so quickly. E & A were able to answer all the questions from my list in which I forgot at my office. Our views on parenting were alot alike.

Now in this visit I brought a gift and a card as it was just before mothers day and I wrote a letter to A and gave her a duck for a baby, because before meeting them in person I didn't know if in person we would like each other but I wanted her to know that she was thought of through her process of becoming a mom. They also gave me a necklace that had a big heart and a little heart in the beginning which represented me and the baby I was carrying. I put the locket on the next day and wore it for months after I delivered my son. The day I took it off my heart dropped. (More in another blog)

Afterwards we each talked to our counselors and I left before they did as I had my son to get home to. I also wanted to share with everyone I knew about the parents my child would be growing up with.

The next day I called C and told her I wanted that couple to be my babies parents. So she said that I could be the one to tell them. I wrote them a letter about what I wanted and how great it was to meet them and I included a pink and a blue sock, and mailed it to them.

Looking back on this it a day that will always be in my mind. But something I suggest to any one about to meet the parents for the first time is don't be afraid to ask any of the questions you want to know. Remember if you choose them you will know them the rest of your life and now is the time to find out their views not after they are parenting your child and you all of a sudden don't like what they are doing because than its to late as its not your choice on how they parent their child. It doesn't matter how big or small the answer may seem even if the answer is obvious.